hey all i am new in usa. i am very curious to know about how to get better job, how to improve credit history, such kind of things. so if any one that let me know i appriciate all answer.

"So where is our smile that we brought while coming from Nepal? "

         You make a valid point. Where is the smile? Where is the passion? Where are those times when you thought these are your moments? I guess you could compare that to, buying a new flashy dress with red, blue and white color all over it. You loved it when it was in the store. It was darn expensive but somehow by convincing your family or friends you bought one. Here convincing means debt(not in all cases). The first day you got it and you put it on was the best moment I believe.I wish you could freeze that moment. I hope that's the smile that you are talking about. As you start to wear in on a regular basis its fabrics, color and charm slightly fades away. You end up washing it more thinking it would come back! Relentless effort! You can't bring back that charm that your dress had but yeah you can always fake a smile, isn't it?

A Dreamer,
YekloYatri

good luck.everybody was new when they first arrive here.

some has fail, some has made it. most of them are still working towards it. some are lost, some are confuse.

it's all depend on your characters and little luck that after 4/5 years later you gonna see yourself a BIG change!

good luck

its been a while i have not posted any comments on sajha because for me sajha now seems like GANG FIGHT in NEPAL.i just read em...but i couldnot help myself from puttin some words after i read what YEKLOYATRI wrote.i just wanted to say that U R absolutely true .

Bender,

           When i looked at the title of the thread, I was curious. I gave it a click just to see how the individual might be excited or might have that "Smile" (we were talking above).... My second thought was not to respond. I was thinking to hit the back button but when i started typing i never stopped, neither could i help myself from writing all of the above. Thank you for reading this post.

Best Wishes,
YekloYatri

Hi YekloYatri,

Huna ta ma yo site ko naya user ho...ani ma sanga tapai haru ko jasto USA ko experience pani chaina. I am willing to be there as I am about to complete my Bachelor in Nursing...Tehi ta ho ramro kaam ani daam or good education....where???? USA!!!

YekloYatri, tapai ko kura padda maan ma kasto kasto bhayo...dar lagyo...tara I have heard this several times from other people...but they were not as expressive as you are...this is the reality...somewhere I believe...still I want to pursue my dreams to be there in US...your suggestions...taken by heart...will never forget...

At the same time would like to suggest you one thing...this is life...there is happiness in every pain...you expressed the painful reality in such a way that gave some people a good vision of how to start...isn't this a reason to be happy for you:) There are such little aspects if we collect would make our world happy...your writing style, your experience in the expression, your maturity suggest that you are more knowledgeable than me...but try my suggestion...You would be happy...

Thank you.

Regards,

N_Maan

i like this shit..yekloyatri..rite on my man!!!

N_Maan, Thanks for reading the post, though i was not the originator ( I guess Nepalicyko proceeded with my suggestion). And also many thanks for the advice. You are correct when you said simple joys are precious.

Atomic, many thanks for reading.





Passionate Dreamer,
YekloYatri

       Thanks everyone for participating and viewing this thread.



Happy Holidays
YekloYatri

Yekloyatri is right.  I have been here for more than 6 yrs now.  Its been really tough.  life is really hard over here.  its nothing like what we imagine back home.  we dont know so many things about usa and how things work here and it takes time to know and understand those things.  USA IS NOT MTV OR AMERICAN PIE .  you are on your own here.  you will see people from diverse socio economic background here.  please take this things from your head off that all american are rich and i will be also rich one day ( dont know some may).  every american works really hard to make living.  some are really rich but middle class and lower middle class really work hard to make living.  have you heard the term " living pay check to pay check"  here yet?  well most do live like that here.  if we dont work hard, we can not live in this world. 

ya, do not expect other to do favor to you.  focus on your goal.  do not get carried away with lime lights here.  i really work hard in last six years and finally able to get this thing called h1B.  well, things changed once you land here.  to complete degree is not easy, to maintain status is not easy, to get job is not easy and to get h1b is not easy.  life does nt end there my friend.  we, being human being always look for better and more.  we  miss family, society, environment of nepal, which we can not get here.  may be i am makign descent money now, but i dont have those things with me.  when i came here my focus was to complete degree and get a descent job and live descent life here.  the kind of money we make ( mind you i make descent money as an entry level guy) is not enough to save enough to go back to nepal in few years.  you pay taxes and all and saving is not much.  anways, those stuffs you dont need to worry much.  i think i shoudl nto have written all those.  its too much for new arrival here.

 

do this, try to find a job at your school, make SSN, focus on your education at this time.  dont think about other stuffs now.  you will learn things, dont worry.  stay focused. 

nepali cyco, its the world of opportunity...more u dream..more u wish and more ur life is complicated....yekloyatri is totally right....our life is going as he describe....u will miss everything in the life...u will miss ur frns and family....slowly and gradually ur frns will forget u....number of emails u getting now from ur frns will go down to zero...unless they need some kind of help...u will starting thinking of the life u was living.....sometime u will feel that u was living a gr8 life....and when u will hear from somebody just coming from nepal than u will think that it was worst in nepal....u will think how can somebody walk a long....survive without electricity....u will start having home frns coming to ur college....u will start chilling out...dollars wont count for u......u will never compared dollar to nepalese currency like u doing right now....u will see people driving brand new cars...using expensive laptops....by the time u will have good credit and u will buy all those things....later when u will have the time to pay bills than u have to work a lot for money...slowly u will be motivated for money....later u will think that what u will do after graduating....sometime u feel like leaving college.....u think that u hate this life...so its better to earn as much as u can and go back nepal....u will just keep on thinking and the time will goes so fastly that it will be already 2-3 years...than u will think of going back home....but u can go only in summer or fall.....u dont want to go in fall coz of short vacation and on summer u will start making money...u will count the money and its like 3000 u make in 1 month and all those money u will spend in 1  money if u will go to nepal...than u will post poned ur plan and it will just keep on going like a endless journey..........................................................

yekloyatri, very sincere and helpful advice. Great job.

hi all,
thanks to every one who responded this thread.
yekloyatri,
*_(there is no any name),
roker,
barshashah,
bhakunde_bhut,
happyface,
aloojasto,
atomic,
N_maan,
bender,
sajhakohero,
copicat
shahayog,
slash,
walkahead
presidentofnepal2035
unforgiventale
 once again thanks to all. thanks to all who visited this thread.


yekloyatri your first thread was remarkable. that was humerous i enjoyed reading that that was fun.rest of your thread was informative.  your thread helped me alot. i was new when i started the thread now its been more than one year from last 27th dec2007. i am graduate student majoring in information system .on the checklist provided by yekloyatri i am at no 5 lol. thanks god till now i dont have to go any where like ocean city for tution money or something likethat. i was lucky i didnot have to wait unlike some of my friends who waited one entire semester to get hired.yekloyatri's infromation was very helpful.
what ever the N_maan said about yekloyatri is true.
thank to all of you.
aaloo jasto your was response neat.
also walkahead droped some good inoformation.
once again thanks to all.
 NEPALICYKO

yekloyatri........this was one of the best things tht i read on sajha............

humorous yet so true.........

Same here 11 years passed by and feels like you just arrived yesterday... Do you guys not feel that so long year of time in America is just a big empty hole in your life!!!

What do you say?

 

I_A_N

Yekloyatri,

 

            You portrait the future scene of all Nepalese students so clearly that  even close eyes can also see it. Yes it is frustrating but is so true just like the truth of rise of sun from east.

 

            All of us have to burn our ass in 360 c temperature to survive here if we want to stay legally. But this is not enough, there is always, ALWAYS some issues going around us that we have to deal with exclusively. I been here in USA for lat one and half year, done with my study and still working at a lowest level job, that none of us even haven’t imagine. Just tell me how many of you thought to sell cigratees (just like ramdayal does in Nepal), or washing dishes for 14 hours, pumping gas for others, bushing people. On starting we convenience ourself beliving that future would have really good fruit for us.

 

We can’t save money at all. Whatever you get, pay your bills and try to save it for next semester. And believe me it would be never enough. Always you would have to use your credit card to pay your tuition fee or beg your college to arrange installment plan for you. Don’t even think to save money when you are in college, it would be a highest level of stupidity. Going classes and doing HOURS makes your life so miserable that one OFF day would be passed like one minute. 5 years (undergrad students), 2 years (master students) would just passed like blink of eyes. Struggle for whole week and end up with beer during the weekend that’s what lie would become all about.

 

Some of the luckiest people would have get a chance to go to Nepal, and would spend few months. Unfortunately I m not one of those lucky persons and I even can’t think when I can make it true.

 

After done with study, all those H1B lafads…Find a dhoti consultancy, get training for 2-3 months, make fake resume and put it on market. Some of us will get lucky and will find a job, those unfortunate ones either have to stay illegally or go to college again. SAD huh…….Again the life I described before will start.

 

And oh yeah, where is the social life. Most of the time I can’t meet my roommates for 2-3 days. When I am at home they would have already gone to work and when they come, I would be already at work. And I m pretty sure this happens or happened to you all too.  American people don’t give a damn to us, no matter what you say now.. it just sp f)cking true….they just don’t. I think its something called “”.. I don’t know what you called it ?. Do we give a dam to any dhotis there in Nepal? Do we hang with them? We will miss everything. From Carrying our girlfriend on the back of our bike to making wood fire and haging with your friends in front of shanker dev campus. All those momos, nagarkot picnics and gathering on main “CHOWK” at evening would become just a memory. And no occasions too..On dashain we will get “goat” meat and would try to celebrate it anyway. Except that no tihar, no holi , no maghe sankranti….

 

 

 

 

 

And dream, I even don’t want to talk about it..Actually I even don’t remember when was the last time I saw a nice dream? Nice dream is a very far, I (we) even actually can’t get a good sleep. Being here is not like seeing guys going to road trip on movies or doing gangbang with chicks. Being here means just compromising. Compromising with your desires, wishes and cutting the throat all foolish dreams we have seen we saw in Nepal. I have to give up the most interesting thing of my life “computer programming” just because I don’t have time to do programming anymore. Saying “get a programming job” would be very easy, but most of us know how easy it is?

 

Why Can’t I go back to Nepal ?

 

 

Even after having so much frustration, I have to stay here. I am assuming that many of us are having the same situation.

 

1)      I am not the son of a rich businessman. Whatever my father has earned so far, (our house) is in a bank. I took that loan to get in here and at least, I have to get my house out of the bank before going there.

2)      Even someday when I would be able to pay my loan, I can’t go Nepal with empty hands because I won’t have to do anything there. It would be too late to get a job, I would be old enough not to get job (30 years) and to start a small business I need some money.

3)      Paying back the loan is not easy.  I have to maintain status here and to survive here.

 

N_Man

“Tehi ta ho ramro kaam ani daam or good education....where???? USA!!!”

 

That’s what I thought before coming to usa. Let me say a bitter truth, No good money when you are a student and no good education for us. Studying here means working whole night and going to college during day time and again go back to work at night. In every semester we have to escape classes and have to write emails making excuse to the professors. It’s not like studying in Nepal, without any tension, without any problem. How do we expect to have a good education after work 40-45 hours in a week? You will spend 55-60 hours on your sleep and rest you have to go to school. There is only 168 hours in a week.

 

 

I was becoming silent user for sajha.com but today can’t stop myself to write on this thread.

 

 

Sorry if I ruined this thread. Have to throw this frustration out of my soul somewhere.

 

 

 

It makes me feel so bad that all of us people suffering with this and unfortunately deal with it. Even I don’t know any of you and expect to cross our path in our life, I wanted to give a hug to all of you as Nepalese love.

 

With love

Do_not_remember_me

 

 

 

 

 

 

heheheh well said!!!!!!!! i totally agree with yeklo yatri......that's what student life is in the us and a... and i'm pretty sure u'll learn true meaning of struggle in  a practical way,facing real world,.actually..in our case it's a  journey from boyhood to manhood. and well!!!!don't forget."no pain no gain".....anyways..welcome!!!!!!!! 

 I come to sajha once a while read many googled answers, see many angry faces, read many angry opinions, ruthless truths, genius IT solutions (hardly contribute to any) but this topic is really interesting. 

I just want to add my two cents from my personal experience.  I think Yekloyatri's writing is not only beautiful but also well put...seemed even rehearsed at times.

My personal fight was to know if I belong here or not.  Khairays always intimated me even though I write and speak ok.  They still intimidated me even though I knew what they were talking about/ their jargons used to get me lost etc etc.  Once I realized I have to know to belong here that’s where I overcame a lot of my fears.  My biggest one was the feeling of nostalgia...Don’t get me wrong I still love Nepal just as much as you do, still love khasi ko masu and gundruk ko jhool....but you have to know when its time to be happy with what you have and where you are while maintaining your identity. 

I actually went through phases that Yeklo mentions but with all due respect I must say those are phases that most neps or other ppl from all over the world will go through.  You or I am not the first not the last either.  Its part of being here.  There is nothing to be ashamed of. 

I like being here, loved the fact that a underdog team like Giants won..went to the parade to celebrate.  I went to downtown on 9/12 to clean the rubble after the twin towers fell..as that was the least I could do to pay my respect.  I saw how people from all over the world came together.  I have been granted wishes I fullfilled here.  I have been given opportunities that I could never have.  I have learnt to respect people more…I have learnt to give back, I have learnt standard of living and to love others all by being here.  Could I have learnt all that back home?....may be but I can say for a fact I did it here!!  I think if you haven’t lived in Nepal for more than two mths in the last 2 yrs you don’t know how much Nepal has changed….Nepal has embraced a lot of “American” changes my fren…

It is not as bad as one makes out to be.  I don’t have million dollars, I don’t have a fancy car..hell I just bought a beat up car 2yrs ago after being here for 8 yrs....Life is what you make out to be if you want to sit there and mop...that’s what you will get.

 

 

...This is an interesting thread...Whatever Do_Not_remember_me said is pretty much true...I have been here for more than 6 years...came as a young freshman, now finished Masters, and recently got a new job...I have experienced almost everything Do_Not_remember_me said...But I think as a person I am in a better position than what I used to be before...
    If I was in Nepal, I would have probably wasted my time hanging out with friends...(I am not saying it is bad to hang out with friends)..But when I was in Nepal, I really don't think I had any goals in life..It was all about going to college, hang out, studied only because I wanted to pass,..took money from the parents by making up some B.S. stories and spent it on taking girls out...and so on...If I was back home, I would probably still be the same as most of my friends are...Finally decided to try my luck for USA, the land of freedom...as shown in those movies someone stated above, American Pie..and other High School movies..
        When I got here, yes, I did get a freedom, but not just in doing whatever things I felt like..but freedom in choosing the subjects I wanted to study..no pressure from anyone, and as a freshman I did get a chance to study wide variety of courses (zoology, music to Oceanography and so on) and then only I decided my major..Also, I had a freedom in choosing where to work...from the dining halls, building services, to the gas stations...of course there are certain legal requirements...but  .....and yes I did work 16-17 hours per day at Ocean City for first 4 summers...But hey, that is the part of the learning...By working at all those places I did learn how to interact with people, customers..Improved my speaking skills...and for the hard work I did, I got $$$ back...paid school, bought car, bought cell-phone (That time not everyone had a  cellphone...)...and so on....I did work hard, everyone does...but in return, I got lot of things back too, which I would have never imagined to get in Nepal..Yes, paying college with the hard-earned money is really sad...but think about it...if you were in Nepal your parents would have done the same thing for you, at least by paying yourself here, you are saving their money.....
         so here, I think I really learned to stand on my foot (back home, people said this all the time, but I did not knew what It really meant)...I learned what earning means...overall, I learned what it means to survive...maybe a little hard way...but hey there are rewards along the way too...Isn't that what life is supposed to be?...learning to live.

.. mucho_fiesta...that is exactly what I was talking about...Right on man!

do_not_remember bro your love is much felt.  Can I help you in anyways?  Please PM me